Posted by Alan on December 2nd, 2013
The relationship was wonderful, you were satisfied and happy, and then he suddenly decided to leave. A few months later, even years, something may happen, almost inevitable. Sometimes you just have to wait and your ex boyfriend will come back and try to make things working. Because men are creatures of habit, or because they can’t just let a woman to go on without them, chances are they will appear again and want to get into your life. Sometimes they want to show that they have changed, they have become a better person.
In some cases, it’s not that he wants to reconcile, but to return to your life, for maybe some other reason. He can have a blame for what he has done so he wants you to know that is not the same person or that never really was bad. In fact he wants to show that he is brilliant, and that you are the one who pulled him. If this is the reason for his re-entry into your life, he probably wants to prove himself, that he is capable to continue the relationship. He wants to make sure that you are still the same. Sometimes they realize what they have lost and are willing to do whatever it takes to get you back.
Of all the reasons why men want to go back, this is one of the rarest. A woman can sometimes leave a mark on the heart of man without that he is aware of that. When he leaves , he thinks that he will only be at a loss, but at some time he realized, that it wasn’t so. Some men will try to fulfill the emptiness with a another woman, but will not succeed. You can hope that he is still single and try again.
Sometimes he knows that you waiting him to return, but does nothing. You maybe already tried everything, called him, tried to talk to him, tell him how you feel. Sometimes the only thing left is to turn your back on him, to pretend that you don’t care even a little bit and to come out with someone else. When he starts to feel that he has lost you, maybe he will want you back. If you choose to meet with again with the former partner, be sure to do some of those things that your partner wanted that you do, but you didn’t. In this way you show that you care. If he doesn’t come back, then turn a new page in a your life. Nobody is worth waiting too long. And if the ex boyfriend really can’t live without you, he will come back sooner or later in your life. It’s bad to live in the past, we should rather live in present and think of the future. It’s important not to buckle after the first sign of misery and sadness. Don’t worry, things will be better. It’s good to hang out and get out. Whatever happens in the future, get out of the circle of grief, and things will be better. There is always a hope.
Posted by Alan on December 2nd, 2013
How to approach for the first time has troubled many and sometimes it is really not easy to approach an unknown person. The first thing is that you need to relax. Don’t be afraid of failure, and have fun. Let’s say that you have to overcome anxiety to enjoy in the conversation. Before you approach, try to make an eye contact. The best is to start with humor. It’s great because women prefer guys with a sense of humor, laughter and relaxing effect. This means that she becomes more relaxed too and it’s easier for the both of you. The great example of how important is a good laugh is how much better you feel when your friend make you laugh when you’re in a bad mood. So the whole point is that you laugh with some witty comment and then continue the conversation. Try to ask something about a common interest, so you can both feel good because you talk about something you love.
A very common approach is simply a representation such as “I’m John. What’s your name?”, But that isn’t always the best. The reason is that it isn’t in no way special and it is fully formed. That is why, although some say it’s rude, it’s better to wait until she asks you by herself for your name. If she asks you, that it may mean that she is interested in you, so it’s also a good indicator of your progress. It is important to also attract and keep her attention. The key is moderation. If she gets the feeling that you’re too interested in her and you can’t do anything anymore without her, she will lose interest and have the feeling of being suffocated. Women love men who have their own opinions, which mean that occasionally you may disagree with her, and that’s great. Men who think that they have to nod to her every idea will might get the interest of a woman in the beginning, but over time it will turn into a boring relationship in which she is always right. A man who advocates for their positions and arguments and defend them, are very interesting and that might impress her. If you have an opinion don’t be afraid to express it, she will hardly wait to share her thoughts with you, and hear what you think.
With a dramatic approach, you have to be willing to make a scene. You can do it in a million ways. Let’s say, that you see a pretty clerk somewhere. Open the door and when you’re entering you may pretend a spectacular crash. The woman certainly wouldn’t know how to react, to laugh or call an ambulance, and you can lift up with a big smile on your face. It will most make her laugh a lot. You may continue with the sentence: “I knew that you have a smile that can melt glaciers.” And with a satisfied look on his face, just keep standing and watch her in the eyes. Now it is very likely that she will conversation and you’re entered.
Posted by Alan on November 27th, 2013
Anxiety can come and haunt us in all kinds of ways. Many people will always come up to me and ask why im so upset or why i get really down on myself sometimes and what people don’t know is that i have my own demons. We all have our own demons smacking us on the back of the head whenever we do something wrong or mess up telling us not to do that again. People don’t understand that dealing with anxiety pushes us over the edge when our demons get the better of us. They push us to close ourselves up and push everyone away, but many don’t understand is that’s how many loose the closest people to their heart, both friends, family and loved ones.
We need to learn how to push those demons away and learn to put ourselves out there as much as we can.
Alfred Lord Tennyson wrote in his poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:
I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
That could not be more true, if we don’t put ourselves out there we will never have love at all. and while the bad times can get really bad you need to learn to live for the good moments in any relationship. If we learn to live for the good, the bad doesn’t really seem all that bad.
Posted by Alan on November 23rd, 2013
Curiosity or Anxiety
How do you approach a situation?
Having anxiety approach approaching someone is very common and can turn some of the biggest strongest people into the smallest. There are many reasons why people get scared.
- social anxiety
- being anxious about dating
- Worrying too much about the person your trying to talk to thinks (first impression
- Afraid of being rejected
- Not being motivated to approach someone
What many don’t realize is when we are first interested or when someone catches our eye is a trigger on our curiosity. Curiosity reflects on positive emotions in our brain and push us to a more confident level.
You need to get rid of the anxiety by getting out of your head and try to view the world in a curios light. Don’t let your anxiety destroy your self confidence and place you in a curse of fear. Get out of your head and become curios about the situation. Think about all the positive outcomes, don’t spend one moment on the negatives.
You are the only who can control your own mind. You hold the power over your mind with proper discipline. You just need to calm your moment of calm in the storm and push everything far away.
I am one of the worst people who lets my emotions run away with my head. I will frequently freak out when I get overwhelmed, to the point of panic attacks in the past.
You just need to push the demons away and keep the light close to you. Don’t let anxiety control your life. Fight the anxiety with curiosity.
Posted by Alan on November 23rd, 2013
I always seem to get asked the question from my friends of “How do i tell if This girl/guy likes me?” So how do you really know if a boy or girl really likes you?
Many people all over the world will always ponder that question. How will i know if they like me, is it all in my head? Many people prevent themselves from doing anything because of the fear of getting shot down or rejected. That’s why most people don’t end up with who they want. We need to learn to take risks with ourselves and live up to what you want.
One of my favorite foods in the world is a thing called Pho (Vietnamese iNoodle Soup) where they will take some soup broth, rice noodles, and vegetables under beef. Now when i started dating my girlfriend Amy i always wanted to go there and get some great soup, but whenever i brought it up she would get nervous and freak out. After 10 or 20 times of this i showed her a picture of it when she had a cold and she said “fine ill try it”. In the end we normally go back and get pho once or twice a week because it now is one of her favorite things to eat.
we need to learn that we have to take risks to live a life that we want. If you took the risk on the first girl or guy you ever thought that liked you, you will have confidence in asking the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th girl.
In the end we all just need to push ourselves to be truly happy. My girlfriend was having so much anxiety about going somewhere new, but when she pushed herself and actually went she found it to be one of her favorite things.
So even though we might be scared and anxious about talking to a boy or girl we all need to put that anxiety aside and push though because the second or third time will be so much easier.